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Children don’t identify race into classes. We often see when we bring kids to a park they all play together whether they are black, white, Asian or different ethnicity. As children grow they begin to differentiate themselves from the other races by classifying themselves based on their ethnicity. On the contrary, how are children able to make such a drastic change? The truth is society teaches them. As we continue taking them to the same park after being influenced by society we observe them playing with children of their own race. We see this problem in CJ Pascoe research. She proved how society, school, family, and administrators force boy to develop heterosexual masculine discipline. She proves this by placing men into different categories for masculinity as listed (Hegemonic masculinity, complicit masculinity, subordinated masculinity, and marginalized masculinity). Due to these various category, every man wants to be in the hegemonic category, if not they will be bullied and fluid with identity with epithet as fag. School and religion teach boys that it is only right to be heterosexual and a sexist instead of being attracted to same sex.

Consequently, this belief strength and encourages boys to practice normative behavior like dating, going to prom, dance, running for student government, sports and so forth. We have taught boys that real men don’t show emotion and if they cry they are considered to be gay. For instance, my friend confided in me that his girlfriend broke up with him. He said to me with tears in his eyes that he related to his mother this issue. She uttered to him, men don’t cry. Immediately he felt weak and less than a man. He told me his mother confined in his father who later called him a girl. He told me he will never cry over a woman again because real men don’t cry. This proves what CJ Pascoe written about in her research where she observe boys often tease other boys  who portray such behavior when they did something out of the norm.

She further relates another scene in the opening of the book to show that boys with soft voices were seen as women and given no respect. Due to this humiliation and inequality force them to establish muscle so that they can be seen as men. She related similar instances whereby heterosexual boys indulge in auto shop and weight lifting activities than participating in drama class due to this culture these young boys refuse to indulge in feminine course to prevent from being an outcast and condemnation. We suppress them from trying different activities and forced to live a body where they are controlled by a control that switched on or off. We force them to hold in their true feeling. We force them to live in a dark and lonely world. A world that shut them off from being who they are and a world to what we expect and want. She uses ethnography to prove that it’s is our culture and surrounding that make us homophobic and if more parents and institution are educated on that topic this division among masculinity will be shared equally The life of mortals is like grass, they flourish like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more. An individual shouldn’t be forced into undesirable category because of masculinity